Why is letting go so hard? Why do we stay when we should have left a long time ago? Why do we keep on doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result?
These are the questions I’ve mulled over facing different junctures in life. I knew I needed to make changes when I felt suffocated, but applying it seemed insurmountable. It meant letting go of my old way of thinking, leaving something behind I had ties to and opening the door to a new beginning.
It’s scary to let go. Worries of making a wrong decision come into play. Hurting people along the way. Standing up for yourself, refusing to be a doormat takes enormous courage. Not everyone is going to approve of your decision and you have to stay firm in your resolve.
How to enforce letting go?
Listen to the whisperings in your heart. It knows when you’re hurt, when someone has pushed you too far, when it’s time to move on. Don’t ignore it, don’t think things are going to change, don’t sugar-coat a bad situation. Feel the rawness in its entirety and promise yourself you deserve better.
Be fearless in the pursuit of making the change. Don’t allow others to persuade you otherwise. You are the expert in your life, you hold the key to your freedom, you have the ability to move mountains when you need to. There will be flashes of doubt along the way, toy with them, then toss them aside with the notion you made the best decision for you. In time you will come to a peaceful realization that you took control of your life and walked away from what didn’t suit you any longer.
And that’s a proud moment! Cherish it!